Charlotte's Overscheduled Moms
Stressed out, sleep-deprived, drained. It's the life of the overscheduled mom.
CHARLOTTE, N.C. - Jennifer Bullock loves motherhood. So much so that she shares her experience as “Mommy B” and on theCharlottemoms.com. That said, she feels the pressure to be a supermom.
"We place a lot on ourselves, our husbands, churches and organizations and our peers do too. You see other moms doing great things and you're like 'oh why am i not doing that as well,'" explains Bullock.
That leads many moms to believe getting the most done in the shortest amount of time defines them. Psychologist Dr. Desaree Festa says the definition of a good mom must change and moms must take more time for themselves.
"It's not necessarily quantity of giving but it's quality. She's able to re-energize herself so when she's with her children she's not getting easily frustrated or snapping," says Festa.
Jennifer says having support from other moms can also be a big help.
"When i first moved here I didn't know anyone. I was a new mom and I cried and cried. Having someone say 'my kid was up last night so late and them be like me too!' It's like someone gets me,” says Bullock.
Instead of taking care of everything for the family, Dr. Festa suggest delegating some responsibilities.
"Figure out what are the things that you want to put your energy into and then if there's someone there to help really take advantage of those people around you that want to help and communicate what you need from them."
Mom, you may also need to pull out the schedule and show dad that it may be time to cross a few things of the list, because sometimes dads don't notice. Unless it's right in front of our face. We're visual learners.